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What to do if you’re just starting out on your Author Adventure: planning, preparation, and dealing with your Inner Dickhead
Last week, there was a row on my Facebook timeline.
Well, not so much a row, as a demonstration of white male privilege at its worst.
In the face of dozens of women sharing stories and actual facts and stats about discrimination and how unfriendly the world of engineering is to non-males and the ways in which the patriarchy damages all of us (not just women), one man explained to us how we're wrong.
Be grateful for what you can do.
Your body and mind (which are inextricably linked) are incredible. What you can do with them is wondrous.
Tight jumpers (I remember having a meltdown as a child because my mum made me wear a blouse with puffy sleeves, then put a tight cardigan on over the top. Got the panicky sweats just thinking about it now).
Woolly hats.
Woolly scarves.
Woolly gloves.
Wool on my bare skin (shudder).
Felt. UGH FELT.
Anything that feels tight under my arms.
I need to mind my business and keep buzzing onwards.
Not be swayed by what others are doing.
Remember this next time you're stuck. Remember it when something threatens to derail your plans to write. Be more like Beetrice, focused on writing your book.
Criticism and feedback can feel like eating kiwi fruit with the skin on: uncomfortable, even painful, leading to shortness of breath.
But only for a few minutes. Maximum 7 minutes. Then I have to pull myself together and crack on.
How many times have you heard someone say something like, "Just be yourself! BE YOURSELF!"
And you're over in the corner thinking, "But WHO THE HELL AM I, KAREN?" Me.
It's one of those pieces of advice that isn't really advice so much but doesn't actually help us.
And the instruction to "be yourself" is at its worst when it's directed at writers.
I will never stop speaking out about what I feel is wrong or right.
I will never stop learning and unlearning and growing.
I will not dampen my voice or shrink my presence or water down my opinions to make anyone else feel better or more comfortable.
Attitude is everything. Everything I do happens inside my head before it happens outside: and that goes for business and life.
A little while ago, someone commented that writing a book "seems unfeasible". Clearly it's not, because I've done it many many times, and many of my clients have done it.
"Tell me about yourself"
Four little words guaranteed to strike terror into most people's hearts, especially if we're standing in front of a roomful of people.
I've worked with dozens of business owners to help them write their books and encountered dozens of situations, challenges, and ways of working. They're all valid.
Writing a book isn't about shoehorning people into a rigid framework; it's about working with individuals to coax the book out of them as efficiently and effectively as possible.
Yesterday morning, I rigged my shiny new trapeze – the birthday gift my wonderful husband gave me back at the end of March, 4,380 years ago – and hung upside down from my feet.
Writing is a source of great anxiety to a lot of people – including me, sometimes. Just because I'm a writer doesn't mean I have all my shit together.
We get stressed because we haven't started yet, or we keep getting distracted, or we can't focus, or we don't have time, or we can't finish. I get it.
